The irony of this post is that the people I am complaining about will most likely never read it.
I’m annoyed with you, Mr or Ms “I-Wanna-Be-a-Famous ________” (writer/artist/musician/social commentator).
I’m annoyed with you because you are so self-involved, so motivated by your dreams of fame and fortune, and so lacking in any boundaries that you routinely “like” something on my blog (usually it’s the “About” page, which of course is the shortest and easiest page to access) for the sole purpose of getting me to then read your blog and perhaps comment or follow you.
You don’t read a damn thing on this blog. I know this because you don’t comment, or I go to your site and see page after page of people thanking you for “liking” their blog post.
Your comments to those, if you bother to write any, are always generic, such as “Thanks! Keep up the good work!”
If you bother to write anything else, it’s always because the commenter actually took the bait, read a blog post (or several) of yours, and made relevant comments. Your response to those is always self-centered, never mentioning the other person’s blog at all.
Because you aren’t trying to generate a relationship between yourself and your readers. You’re not trying to change the world with your philosophical leanings on things (I get a lot of “likes” from bloggers who want to be the next Dalai Lama or something). You’re not even trying to start an exchange of ideas on a particular social problem.
No. You just want a lot of followers. Or you want to sell something on your site. Or maybe both.
Now, look – I don’t “require” that anyone who reads this blog has to comment, or rate it, or “like” it. I am thrilled to death when I find out anyone has read my blog – really read it, I mean. That’s a huge bonus for me, especially when people I don’t know read it.
So, if you’re reading posts on this blog, thank you! I hope you enjoy them and you do not need to give me any feedback whatsoever. This post is definitely not written with you in mind.
No, this post is aimed at people who are shallow and manipulative, and who use the “like” button as a way to lure others to their blog with the misassumption that the blog writer has actually deigned to read someone else’s blog.
Because all they care about is their “stats” – how many read their blog, how many follow them, and so on.
If you have only “liked” a page of mine on this blog you probably don’t know this, but…
…I hate it when people attempt to manipulate me. And, as a therapist, I catch on to it pretty quickly.
I also have a very low tolerance for self-important blowhards who think that every single thought that pops into their head is worthy of a blog post.
You might think this is hypocritical, coming from someone who writes, in the words of a former friend, a “vanity blog”.
But I don’t actually write every single thing that pops into my head. I consider long and hard before picking a topic to comment on. And, nearly always, that topic fits into the area of “what it’s like to be poor in the US”, “how people ought to be kinder to one another”, or “don’t be a jerk when you’re interacting with people who are different from you”.
I write because I want my family and friends to understand what I think. Some of this is for future family members to read once I have passed on. Because I wish – so very much – that my deceased family members had written commentary on who they were, what life was like for them, and what life was like in the country in which they lived (US, Ireland, England).
My sisters, my parents, my grandparents, my great-grandparents, my friends who have passed…I wish every day that they had recorded their thoughts and feelings for the rest of us to read, even if it was just a diary.
It’s not a crazy leap of logic to think that some future generation of my family might want to read what I thought and felt.
So, Mr and Ms Self-Important Blogger/Website owner (that almost sounds like the opening for a Bud ad in the “Real Men of Genius” series, doesn’t it?)…
Um anyway, got sidetracked (loved those ads!).
Ok so look, I know you’ll do what you want anyway – if you even read this far – but I just wanted to vent and tell you that at least one person knows what a complete dick you are for using the “like” button in this manner.
To the rest of you, I hope you enjoy the Bud ad! And again, thanks for reading my blog!
Victoria, I have never been very good with statistics. I don’t know if that is one of your strong points, but I do know that real reflection is. And it provides a gift to your readers.
I can do stats as it applies to experimental psychology – beyond that, I am useless.
Thank you for your kind comment!